My thoughts on teen love I think it does matter and is an essential part of your life.
It's pretty obvious that a majority of teenage relationships end up in disaster, only rarely do they work out in the end. But they're pretty distinct from adult relationships. Being in a teenage relationship introduces you to the romantic life, and potentially, the sexual life. Think of it like you're playing a brand new game that you just bought at GameStop and you're going through the tutorial. It's basically the tutorial to romance. It prepares you for whatever comes up next in the future.
As a teen, being in a relationship is the one time where you can feel intimate, shy, emotional, all that lovey-dovey stuff. It's the one time where you can hold each other in each other's arms, spend hours alone just constantly talking, and go on a total rollercoaster of emotions. But once you grow up, it will be too late for any of that. Sure, you can do that stuff as adults too, but at that point, you've already figured out who you are. What makes teen relationships more fun is that you and your partner get to identify yourselves along the way, both of you maturing together. Additionally, if nobody wants you as a teen, nobody will want you as an adult.
My experiences with teen love I'll be honest, I've never had it (yet). I've only watched, observed, and listened. That's how I know this stuff.
(this is where the 'venting' part of the thread is so DNR my autistic rant if u want) All my life I've been thinking about love, fantasizing about love, looking for love, wishing for love. I mean it when I say 'all my life', and even after years I still haven't got it. I get a feeling of envy and guilt every time I hear my friends talk about their experiences on love. They don't care as much about it as me, and yet somehow they still get it, one way or another.
What makes me upset is not the relationship itself, but the fact that they don't even have to try. This is usually the case with the people in my school and in my town. They could have a crappy personality, be sub 80 IQ, have extreme facial deformities, and still be in a loving relationship. Good Lord dude, I remember last week in school, I overheard my crush and her guy friend talking about their previous/current relationships. I wanted to shoot myself right on the spot. You probably assumed that they don't even care about it, that they're both literal subhumans that still ended up with a loving partner.
(I know I just called my crush a subhuman, but I'm actually planning to make a completely different thread on that later when I have the time)
So yeah I just listen to their conversation, and all I could think was, "Why couldn't that be me? I try too. I could've done so much better". Sounds narcissist, I know, but I know my boundaries; I know that no matter how much I try, I won't be able to experience the love that they felt.
It's getting late so that's all I'll say for the vent, but here's kind of a more wholesome story to cheer myself up. So during the entirety of middle school, there was this couple who always sat next to me at lunch. I wasn't friends with them, I never spoke with them, I just let them sit with me. They were often kissing and holding each other in front of me, but instead of being jealous, I didn't really mind. They were pretty nice to me whenever we were interacting. Plus, they were the only company I had whenever I went out to lunch, even though we didn't talk at all. They're still dating as of now, which I'm pretty happy about.
It's pretty obvious that a majority of teenage relationships end up in disaster, only rarely do they work out in the end. But they're pretty distinct from adult relationships. Being in a teenage relationship introduces you to the romantic life, and potentially, the sexual life. Think of it like you're playing a brand new game that you just bought at GameStop and you're going through the tutorial. It's basically the tutorial to romance. It prepares you for whatever comes up next in the future.
As a teen, being in a relationship is the one time where you can feel intimate, shy, emotional, all that lovey-dovey stuff. It's the one time where you can hold each other in each other's arms, spend hours alone just constantly talking, and go on a total rollercoaster of emotions. But once you grow up, it will be too late for any of that. Sure, you can do that stuff as adults too, but at that point, you've already figured out who you are. What makes teen relationships more fun is that you and your partner get to identify yourselves along the way, both of you maturing together. Additionally, if nobody wants you as a teen, nobody will want you as an adult.
My experiences with teen love I'll be honest, I've never had it (yet). I've only watched, observed, and listened. That's how I know this stuff.
(this is where the 'venting' part of the thread is so DNR my autistic rant if u want) All my life I've been thinking about love, fantasizing about love, looking for love, wishing for love. I mean it when I say 'all my life', and even after years I still haven't got it. I get a feeling of envy and guilt every time I hear my friends talk about their experiences on love. They don't care as much about it as me, and yet somehow they still get it, one way or another.
What makes me upset is not the relationship itself, but the fact that they don't even have to try. This is usually the case with the people in my school and in my town. They could have a crappy personality, be sub 80 IQ, have extreme facial deformities, and still be in a loving relationship. Good Lord dude, I remember last week in school, I overheard my crush and her guy friend talking about their previous/current relationships. I wanted to shoot myself right on the spot. You probably assumed that they don't even care about it, that they're both literal subhumans that still ended up with a loving partner.
(I know I just called my crush a subhuman, but I'm actually planning to make a completely different thread on that later when I have the time)
So yeah I just listen to their conversation, and all I could think was, "Why couldn't that be me? I try too. I could've done so much better". Sounds narcissist, I know, but I know my boundaries; I know that no matter how much I try, I won't be able to experience the love that they felt.
It's getting late so that's all I'll say for the vent, but here's kind of a more wholesome story to cheer myself up. So during the entirety of middle school, there was this couple who always sat next to me at lunch. I wasn't friends with them, I never spoke with them, I just let them sit with me. They were often kissing and holding each other in front of me, but instead of being jealous, I didn't really mind. They were pretty nice to me whenever we were interacting. Plus, they were the only company I had whenever I went out to lunch, even though we didn't talk at all. They're still dating as of now, which I'm pretty happy about.
