I was thinking about it before; I meet a lot of good girls, girls that I find attractive enough to fuck. But not girls I’d settle for and make a life with and fall in love with.
I wonder why this is?
I theorised that there are two main reasons in my case.
1) not wanting to commit time and effort to someone I’m not head over heels in love with, or
2) not wanting to commit time, effort and resources which from my experience always fail.
In case 1, I think this is possibly the most common form for both men and women, we end up dating people we’re not that attracted to. Because we fear being alone, and long to be loved. But we also struggle to fall in love ourselves thus making us avoidant to the relationship.
In case 2, I think a lot of us, and a lot of statistics on this would show the same, but that most relationships fail anyway. Even when the girl is your looksmatch. It can be difficult to want to settle for her as deep down, we know the more effort we put in, the more it will hurt and also be a waste when more likely than not the relationship fails.
I seem to really have commitment issues the most for case 1, I haven’t really felt like I’d want to spend the rest of my life with any girl, and I wonder if I am not the only person thinking this.
Most women I meet are genuinely quite irritating, they don’t seem to have much in the way of ambitions or hobbies I’d want to partake in.
Most women take part in shit lifestyle habits which genuinely drag men with ambitions down (from my personal experience)
And the women that are somewhat decent and have decent goals in life are usually unattractive.
The girls who are attractive and are going places in life are way above my league as a hmtn from a middle class background.
These htb+ are from backgrounds of dynastic wealth and wouldn’t settle for a bum like me.
So there is the brutality of my situation.
I’d be happy to settle for my looksmatch who wanted to support my ambitions and had her own plans in life. However this seems to be hard to find for us men.
So alas, I live in the struggles of meeting and courting girls I don’t envision a future with because of either their looks, personalities or even the fear of wasting time, effort, and resources on a failing project.
Thanks for reading
I wonder why this is?
I theorised that there are two main reasons in my case.
1) not wanting to commit time and effort to someone I’m not head over heels in love with, or
2) not wanting to commit time, effort and resources which from my experience always fail.
In case 1, I think this is possibly the most common form for both men and women, we end up dating people we’re not that attracted to. Because we fear being alone, and long to be loved. But we also struggle to fall in love ourselves thus making us avoidant to the relationship.
In case 2, I think a lot of us, and a lot of statistics on this would show the same, but that most relationships fail anyway. Even when the girl is your looksmatch. It can be difficult to want to settle for her as deep down, we know the more effort we put in, the more it will hurt and also be a waste when more likely than not the relationship fails.
I seem to really have commitment issues the most for case 1, I haven’t really felt like I’d want to spend the rest of my life with any girl, and I wonder if I am not the only person thinking this.
Most women I meet are genuinely quite irritating, they don’t seem to have much in the way of ambitions or hobbies I’d want to partake in.
Most women take part in shit lifestyle habits which genuinely drag men with ambitions down (from my personal experience)
And the women that are somewhat decent and have decent goals in life are usually unattractive.
The girls who are attractive and are going places in life are way above my league as a hmtn from a middle class background.
These htb+ are from backgrounds of dynastic wealth and wouldn’t settle for a bum like me.
So there is the brutality of my situation.
I’d be happy to settle for my looksmatch who wanted to support my ambitions and had her own plans in life. However this seems to be hard to find for us men.
So alas, I live in the struggles of meeting and courting girls I don’t envision a future with because of either their looks, personalities or even the fear of wasting time, effort, and resources on a failing project.
Thanks for reading