In this guide I aim to cover something more new, more novel than usual perhaps.
I have tried what I preach and in fact written this guide following my own advice, and as a young man I think it may be necessary to go and put yourself out there and avoid online dating all together
I write this while on my spin bike, burning off some extra calories I ate for dinner.
I was just lying in bed, about to spend another night attending to business and perhaps learning to advance myself, and I realised : “sure I am not Chad and the women would just come to Chad, but I know one thing, if I am not Chad, and people don’t know about me. Then for sure I will get no girl to be aware of my existence”.
So that is the prerequisite to this thread, I wanna try the age old “just put yourself out there” but not as your average joe, as a pretty looksmaxxed young man.
I plan on visiting a local pub / bar in my town.
I will update from there !
I am in the pub now, I don’t see many people my age here I will move venues to maybe a more young pub. Maybe I will see someone I know, maybe I will go to the clubs while sober. We will see!
So far I notice some young people but they are in groups and their body language reads closed off. I don’t wanna be like that one autistic nigga who had one social skills lesson now is going around in public annoying people JFL. I will finish my Pepsi max and then move to the next venue, I am hoping that these normies’ foggied reality will obscure my seemingly predatory poaching of foids on a night out jfl.
Maybe ”just be Chad“ is correct, but I will for the sake of this experiment. Assume that I can put myself out there to get new friends and romantic prospects.
Just fucking LOL. So I have been upstairs to the toilets and crossed paths with two nt looking young men, they gave me some dirty looks and whatnot. And it didn’t particularly make me feel welcomed. But we will give this establishment maybe around another 15/20 minutes and see how it goes. So far I have been invisible.
I’ve spent just about as much time and as much effort as I can to be seen here at the pub, the next move is gonna be a nice bar in town where I know is expensive, but will more likely get me closer to my goal of getting the attention of girls.
I will update the log once we are in there
Okay so we went to the nightclub and holy mog, it was
Pretty good. I’ve never really made irl approaches as I actually believed it would be humiliating as a none chad.
Either way at this nightclub I went alone and sober to see what I could do and see if I could attain some girl's attention.
Funnily enough, about an hour of dancing and acting NT into the night a group of three girls start to move closer with me and open body language to include me into their dance circle.
One of the girls, a 5'3 brunette high mtb nice body, which is quite literally looks matched to me, was giving decent choosing signals. I’d say A tier but at the very least B tier.
The night goes on and me and her make physical contact, I make her laugh, we seem to be doing fairly well & hitting it off.
At the end of the night I decide to shoot my shot, I type into my instagram search bar (because it’s noisy as fuck in a club) “I’ve gtg, you can add yourself if you want
” and she types back into it “I have a bf sorry”….
Brutal, as wheat waffles says, it really is S tier or nothing.
However I’m gonna take it as a victory, because as far as nights out go, And mind you I wanna make this very clear, this was my first time ever trying to put myself out there, it went pretty well, I didn’t close the deal but I went through the motions so to speak.
So I will try again maybe next week, this has opened my eyes to the opportunity that is exposuremaxxing. If I can successfully land a girl's number and a follow date / slay, we will know that maybe there is some substance to “just put yourself out there bro”. So let’s see if it is repeatable, and we will conclude after a large enough sample size.
But for our first night on the job, I would rate it a solid 8/10 experience. It didn’t start promising but it actually ended quite well and I am satisfied that I did everything in my power to try to get this girl to my bed .
So the next few days for our little experiment I have purchased myself a hinge+ subscription. I have now in 3 days over 130 matches and one arranged date for Wednesday with a mid tier Becky, however I find her cute.
We will be going out for lunch on Wednesday, I also plan for the same nightclub on either Friday or Saturday night, whichever night I choose I will go a little later than the first night. I felt very exposed going in on my own and the place being empty.
However this is seemingly following the thread that getting out there and becoming immune to rejection actually reals the results almost like prospecting in sales and marketing
So I ended up matching with a mid tier becky I had matched on hinge in the past, so we had a little joke about that on Hinge, and evidently got my foot in the door (we hadn’t met in the past btw, she wasn’t giving S-tier, and despite me trying to arrange something, never led to anything). However this time on the dating apps, and on snapchat she was the one to ask if we should go out and when, and literally within 24 hours arranged to meet! I thought “holy fuck this is S-tier, I might get laid”.
We went for a little date, to get some ice cream, and walk her dog. I drove her to the cafe with the dog, and we had the same sense of music which she commented on. That was a good topic to bond over also. It was a good date all in all. If we wanna be autistic ,however, I got a hug, but didn’t manage to kiss or fuck, so technically if we are gonna be blackpilled it was kinda not a success at all JFL.
AND, on top of that, it has been nearly 2 weeks and I don’t hear much from her (occasional dry generic snaps) ,and we haven’t met up since.
Now if I wanna inject some black tar copium she did mention she had mental health issues on the date , I didn’t dig (because usually it is a red flag anyway) so one could argue she is suffering with it at the moment.
But that feels too much of a God in the gaps reasoning, she was giving S-tier before we met, then she's gone off me since we met. That to me says she didn’t like me and I will imagine it is the case unless I hear back from her by 4weeks (I will update if anything happens).
She wasn’t giving S-tier choosing signals on the date, but we had some rapport, and a generally nice time. She was well mannered and seemed to be fairly open with body language with me which didn’t make me feel as if she was repulsed or didn’t wanna be there. However I guess it would be impolite once I was with her and had to give her a ride home JFL. Her actions now “talk” more loudly I suppose.
I met her parents (IDK why foods who literally fuck me off a couple of weaks later do this to me, their poor parents. They must meet 10s of random men round their house) and generally hit it off, the mum seemed to like me (that's what happens when your daughter brings home a nice man with his wits about him and mogs the daughter)
In summary though,if I was more good looking than this girl for sure I would’ve heard back by now. I am sure mental health or work, whatever excuse she wants to throw at me, she would make time to not lose a Chad in her life. I guess I am very replaceable!
It still gave me experience on being low inhib and going and just seeing the girl even if I was nervous to get rejected and the more you do something, the better you get. So now I am more confident when I meet the next girl, and I will be less likely to act autistic, or weird in some creepy way. Because I have more practice going on these first dates which are often draining, awkward and stressful situations for us incels.
The world didn’t end, and it could be way worse, and it makes me feel proud that “damn I did that”, when I think about going to see a girl I didn’t wanna see, was nervous to do before hand and just generally putting myself outside my comfort zone to try better my life .
I have put emotions in their place and started to take control of my life. That is a win in and of itself, even if I am not good looking enough to bag a mid tier becky (brutal).
So one morning I am messaging my matches on Hinge and an asian foid matches with me.
I do the usual, hit her up quickly with a “hi” , and she gets back and is quick to respond too.
There is a slight language barrier, but it is clear that she is down to fuck.
I arrange to come down to hers and fuck, and it is all fine.
I get there, she is giving S-tier mirin my JBW high mid tier normie looks, and roidcelled physique.
To an asian I guess I am a chad, so I got chad treatment.
So I went to her. Gave her probably the best dick game she ever had due to using cialis and being on so much gear I can barely cum (aka endurance maxxing).
She said it was amazing etc, it was okay for me. She had a shit body, and got kinda catfished.
She was mainly flat in the ass and tits and kinda chubby with a mid pussy too tbh.
Beggars can’t be choosers I suppose, so I plan to keep her on the roster maybe fuck every couple of weeks when shit gets desperate if I cannot bag anything better.
And while we are laying there talking (worst part of a fuck , JFL postnut clarity is a bitch in this stage) she was asking about if I want to be her boyfriend. JFL ofc not, why would I wanna be with a whore who fucks someone the first time they meet. I tell her politely ,however, "I am not looking for a relationship at the minute” and I think that will be the end of that.
However she seems to keep pushing to try and get me to take her for food, or call her and generally that she will want me to be her boyfriend one day.
I tell her no so many times, then i have the final straw when she starts with the “I love you” messages when I feel nothing for her at all, not even for just a fuck.
So I swiftly removed her from my contacts, I don’t have time for that shit, and it was clear I got the only freebie from her I could get without having to sign up for an LTR which I don’t want with anyone less than a 6/10 white girl.
To conclude it is clear to me that as a 5/10 male upwards you do need to put yourself out there to some extent, you will still have way less results than a chad who doesn’t even approach (this should be water). But in order to get laid, you gotta play the cards you are dealt. If you are invisible, you are already swimming upstream. So you gotta stand out, and you can only do that by putting yourself in front of as many women who should likely say yes (4-6s, around your age and not trying to escape you when you engage them) and giving them the opportunity to reject you, or invite you into their lives.
You can’t get lucky without playing the odds is the biggest takeaway I learned from my experience so far.
Be pushy, don’t be scared of rejection. The worst case is you don’t get laid, you aren't gonna get laid anyways.
Some key pointers I would give to anyone else who wants to try this experiment, atleast things I wish I could tell myself before doing this because it would have gave me way more results.
I will continue to live this lifestyle , simply due to how effective it is, so I may have some funny, based or even bad updates to post here. I will make it clear where any edits are.
But I will definitely recommend this to the mid tier normies on the site, the only way to get laid in our boots is to fight for it. And that is what exposuremaxxing is about.
The recipe is exposure + looks. While looks is the most important (the 80 in the 80/20) exposure is the 80% effort that yields 20% of the results, but that is still more results than 0%.
Thanks for reading, feel free to ask me anything about my experience!
I have tried what I preach and in fact written this guide following my own advice, and as a young man I think it may be necessary to go and put yourself out there and avoid online dating all together
The first night
I write this while on my spin bike, burning off some extra calories I ate for dinner.
I was just lying in bed, about to spend another night attending to business and perhaps learning to advance myself, and I realised : “sure I am not Chad and the women would just come to Chad, but I know one thing, if I am not Chad, and people don’t know about me. Then for sure I will get no girl to be aware of my existence”.
So that is the prerequisite to this thread, I wanna try the age old “just put yourself out there” but not as your average joe, as a pretty looksmaxxed young man.
I plan on visiting a local pub / bar in my town.
I will update from there !
I am in the pub now, I don’t see many people my age here I will move venues to maybe a more young pub. Maybe I will see someone I know, maybe I will go to the clubs while sober. We will see!
So far I notice some young people but they are in groups and their body language reads closed off. I don’t wanna be like that one autistic nigga who had one social skills lesson now is going around in public annoying people JFL. I will finish my Pepsi max and then move to the next venue, I am hoping that these normies’ foggied reality will obscure my seemingly predatory poaching of foids on a night out jfl.
Maybe ”just be Chad“ is correct, but I will for the sake of this experiment. Assume that I can put myself out there to get new friends and romantic prospects.
Just fucking LOL. So I have been upstairs to the toilets and crossed paths with two nt looking young men, they gave me some dirty looks and whatnot. And it didn’t particularly make me feel welcomed. But we will give this establishment maybe around another 15/20 minutes and see how it goes. So far I have been invisible.
I’ve spent just about as much time and as much effort as I can to be seen here at the pub, the next move is gonna be a nice bar in town where I know is expensive, but will more likely get me closer to my goal of getting the attention of girls.
I will update the log once we are in there
Okay so we went to the nightclub and holy mog, it was
Pretty good. I’ve never really made irl approaches as I actually believed it would be humiliating as a none chad.
Either way at this nightclub I went alone and sober to see what I could do and see if I could attain some girl's attention.
Funnily enough, about an hour of dancing and acting NT into the night a group of three girls start to move closer with me and open body language to include me into their dance circle.
One of the girls, a 5'3 brunette high mtb nice body, which is quite literally looks matched to me, was giving decent choosing signals. I’d say A tier but at the very least B tier.
The night goes on and me and her make physical contact, I make her laugh, we seem to be doing fairly well & hitting it off.
At the end of the night I decide to shoot my shot, I type into my instagram search bar (because it’s noisy as fuck in a club) “I’ve gtg, you can add yourself if you want
” and she types back into it “I have a bf sorry”….Brutal, as wheat waffles says, it really is S tier or nothing.
However I’m gonna take it as a victory, because as far as nights out go, And mind you I wanna make this very clear, this was my first time ever trying to put myself out there, it went pretty well, I didn’t close the deal but I went through the motions so to speak.
So I will try again maybe next week, this has opened my eyes to the opportunity that is exposuremaxxing. If I can successfully land a girl's number and a follow date / slay, we will know that maybe there is some substance to “just put yourself out there bro”. So let’s see if it is repeatable, and we will conclude after a large enough sample size.
But for our first night on the job, I would rate it a solid 8/10 experience. It didn’t start promising but it actually ended quite well and I am satisfied that I did everything in my power to try to get this girl to my bed .
The next few days
So the next few days for our little experiment I have purchased myself a hinge+ subscription. I have now in 3 days over 130 matches and one arranged date for Wednesday with a mid tier Becky, however I find her cute.
We will be going out for lunch on Wednesday, I also plan for the same nightclub on either Friday or Saturday night, whichever night I choose I will go a little later than the first night. I felt very exposed going in on my own and the place being empty.
However this is seemingly following the thread that getting out there and becoming immune to rejection actually reals the results almost like prospecting in sales and marketing
The next date
So I ended up matching with a mid tier becky I had matched on hinge in the past, so we had a little joke about that on Hinge, and evidently got my foot in the door (we hadn’t met in the past btw, she wasn’t giving S-tier, and despite me trying to arrange something, never led to anything). However this time on the dating apps, and on snapchat she was the one to ask if we should go out and when, and literally within 24 hours arranged to meet! I thought “holy fuck this is S-tier, I might get laid”.
We went for a little date, to get some ice cream, and walk her dog. I drove her to the cafe with the dog, and we had the same sense of music which she commented on. That was a good topic to bond over also. It was a good date all in all. If we wanna be autistic ,however, I got a hug, but didn’t manage to kiss or fuck, so technically if we are gonna be blackpilled it was kinda not a success at all JFL.
AND, on top of that, it has been nearly 2 weeks and I don’t hear much from her (occasional dry generic snaps) ,and we haven’t met up since.
Now if I wanna inject some black tar copium she did mention she had mental health issues on the date , I didn’t dig (because usually it is a red flag anyway) so one could argue she is suffering with it at the moment.
But that feels too much of a God in the gaps reasoning, she was giving S-tier before we met, then she's gone off me since we met. That to me says she didn’t like me and I will imagine it is the case unless I hear back from her by 4weeks (I will update if anything happens).
She wasn’t giving S-tier choosing signals on the date, but we had some rapport, and a generally nice time. She was well mannered and seemed to be fairly open with body language with me which didn’t make me feel as if she was repulsed or didn’t wanna be there. However I guess it would be impolite once I was with her and had to give her a ride home JFL. Her actions now “talk” more loudly I suppose.
I met her parents (IDK why foods who literally fuck me off a couple of weaks later do this to me, their poor parents. They must meet 10s of random men round their house) and generally hit it off, the mum seemed to like me (that's what happens when your daughter brings home a nice man with his wits about him and mogs the daughter)
In summary though,if I was more good looking than this girl for sure I would’ve heard back by now. I am sure mental health or work, whatever excuse she wants to throw at me, she would make time to not lose a Chad in her life. I guess I am very replaceable!
It still gave me experience on being low inhib and going and just seeing the girl even if I was nervous to get rejected and the more you do something, the better you get. So now I am more confident when I meet the next girl, and I will be less likely to act autistic, or weird in some creepy way. Because I have more practice going on these first dates which are often draining, awkward and stressful situations for us incels.
The world didn’t end, and it could be way worse, and it makes me feel proud that “damn I did that”, when I think about going to see a girl I didn’t wanna see, was nervous to do before hand and just generally putting myself outside my comfort zone to try better my life .
I have put emotions in their place and started to take control of my life. That is a win in and of itself, even if I am not good looking enough to bag a mid tier becky (brutal).
A slay
So one morning I am messaging my matches on Hinge and an asian foid matches with me.
I do the usual, hit her up quickly with a “hi” , and she gets back and is quick to respond too.
There is a slight language barrier, but it is clear that she is down to fuck.
I arrange to come down to hers and fuck, and it is all fine.
I get there, she is giving S-tier mirin my JBW high mid tier normie looks, and roidcelled physique.
To an asian I guess I am a chad, so I got chad treatment.
So I went to her. Gave her probably the best dick game she ever had due to using cialis and being on so much gear I can barely cum (aka endurance maxxing).
She said it was amazing etc, it was okay for me. She had a shit body, and got kinda catfished.
She was mainly flat in the ass and tits and kinda chubby with a mid pussy too tbh.
Beggars can’t be choosers I suppose, so I plan to keep her on the roster maybe fuck every couple of weeks when shit gets desperate if I cannot bag anything better.
And while we are laying there talking (worst part of a fuck , JFL postnut clarity is a bitch in this stage) she was asking about if I want to be her boyfriend. JFL ofc not, why would I wanna be with a whore who fucks someone the first time they meet. I tell her politely ,however, "I am not looking for a relationship at the minute” and I think that will be the end of that.
However she seems to keep pushing to try and get me to take her for food, or call her and generally that she will want me to be her boyfriend one day.
I tell her no so many times, then i have the final straw when she starts with the “I love you” messages when I feel nothing for her at all, not even for just a fuck.
So I swiftly removed her from my contacts, I don’t have time for that shit, and it was clear I got the only freebie from her I could get without having to sign up for an LTR which I don’t want with anyone less than a 6/10 white girl.
Conclusions
To conclude it is clear to me that as a 5/10 male upwards you do need to put yourself out there to some extent, you will still have way less results than a chad who doesn’t even approach (this should be water). But in order to get laid, you gotta play the cards you are dealt. If you are invisible, you are already swimming upstream. So you gotta stand out, and you can only do that by putting yourself in front of as many women who should likely say yes (4-6s, around your age and not trying to escape you when you engage them) and giving them the opportunity to reject you, or invite you into their lives.
You can’t get lucky without playing the odds is the biggest takeaway I learned from my experience so far.
Be pushy, don’t be scared of rejection. The worst case is you don’t get laid, you aren't gonna get laid anyways.
Some key pointers I would give to anyone else who wants to try this experiment, atleast things I wish I could tell myself before doing this because it would have gave me way more results.
- Be low inhib, literally don’t think about it. Women won’t remember you if they reject you. They reject 100s of men a week. Do the uncomfortable things and rip off the band aid , so to speak. The girls aren’t gonna flock to you as a mid tier male.
- Lose the ego and go and approach. Yes you are gonna realise just how low appeal you are, and humble yourself, and get told to fuck off many many times. But that is okay, you aren’t doing anything wrong. You are trying to meet people, and a romantic partner. This is something everyone should be entitled to. Don’t let some spoiled femoid put you off your game. They could not even survive a day in your shoes, don’t let them try and persuade you that you are creepy or doing anything wrong
- Use online dating to your advantage and mass like everyone, getting interested foods in your pipeline is a mix of a number based and skill based (looks) game. We can only control our looks through looksmaxxing, and likely since you browse the forum. You already looksmax! So what is missing from the puzzle now is the numbers, as mentioned make yourself visible, it is an uphill battle I agree. But at least you have a chance to win if you fight.
- Genuinely just be yourself, JFL and hear me out. Don’t try an act, you don’t gotta be funny, charming or anything. Be natural, within 13ms the girl knows if she likes you (the time to analyze your face and determine if you are attractive). So if you are being yourself you will know when to call it quit. But if the girl likes you, your personality won’t matter, it will be easy to talk with her (she will literally make it easy)
I will continue to live this lifestyle , simply due to how effective it is, so I may have some funny, based or even bad updates to post here. I will make it clear where any edits are.
But I will definitely recommend this to the mid tier normies on the site, the only way to get laid in our boots is to fight for it. And that is what exposuremaxxing is about.
The recipe is exposure + looks. While looks is the most important (the 80 in the 80/20) exposure is the 80% effort that yields 20% of the results, but that is still more results than 0%.
Thanks for reading, feel free to ask me anything about my experience!
